How my journey began

Growing up, I was raised on a steady diet of fairy tales, rom-coms, and the "guy gets the girl" trope. I didn’t just want a relationship; I wanted to be the perfect protagonist. I wanted to be the partner who knew exactly what to do to ensure a "happily ever after."

I spent my early years devouring every magazine, video, and course I could find on how to be a better lover and a better person.

In my search for answers, I encountered two very different worlds.

The first was the world of Clinical Sexology—a world of brilliant educators, research-backed data, and deep human empathy. But the second world was louder: the world of "Pick-Up Artists" and influencers who promised instant results through scripts, psychological tricks, and emotional manipulation.

I’ll be honest: I followed that noise for a while. But the more I tried to employ those tactics, the more disconnected I felt. Using tactics that relied on patriarchal expectations of how men and women “should be” didn’t make me a better partner; it made me feel "gross." It treated intimacy like a game to be won rather than a connection to be nurtured. When those relationships inevitably collapsed, I realized that any “success” that relies on such behavior wasn’t how I wanted to operate any longer.

Building a Better Foundation

That realization changed everything. I decided to stop looking for "tricks" and start looking for truth.

I pivoted away from the scripts and toward the systems. Today, my work as a Certified Sex Coach is dedicated to a Whole-Person-Centered approach. As I continued my work, I learned more about the various social systems —outside of our personal control— that shape who we are and how our sexuality (especially the blockages around our sexuality) manifest. My passion, worldview, and desire to help others using an additional social sciences approach has grown so much over the years, that I recently made the decision to go back to school and pursue a Bachelor’s degree in Social Work. I still have a long way to go before that dream is realized, but it informs much of who I am and how I intend to operate my business going forward. On an individual and societal level, I believe that sexuality is not a performance—it is a human right and a field of study that deserves equitable access, ethics, evidence, and immense warmth.

Where We Go From Here

My goal isn't to help you "get the girl." My goal is to help you understand yourself, your body, and your relationships through a lens of normalization and agency. Whether we are deconstructing the myths you were raised with or navigating the complexities of desire, we do it with the lights on. No gimmicks, no "shady" behavior—just medically accurate information and a safe space to explore what works for you.

Let’s move away from the scripts and toward something real.